Sometimes, time does not heal. What to do when the pain will not stop

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The hurt or emotional pain that you feel straight after a traumatic event in your life is usually justified and appropriate, in other words if somebody you care about dies, it is perfectly normal to feel emotions such as anger, hurt and even guilt.

All of these feelings are part of the normal grieving process, so trying to fight them will actually make you feel worse. If you feel angry, just accept and acknowledge your feelings and set the intention that the feelings will subside, when you are ready to move on.

Eventually you should be able to process all of these negative feelings and return to normal, but unfortunately, this doesn’t always happen naturally. Sometimes, time does not heal, and we need to take extra steps to deal with our negative emotions.

If you continue to feel emotional pain for a timescale that you consider is too long, you need to take action to help yourself get unstuck and move forward.

One of the easiest and most effective ways to do this is to use an energy healing technique such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to neutralise your negative emotions and replace them with positive emotions.

EFT is easy (and free) to learn, but if you don’t have the time to learn how to do it, you can deal with most issues in just a few sessions, so find a good practitioner that can help you with your specific problem and take action.

One thing is for sure, if you are feeling ‘stuck’ with emotional pain after a long period of time, it is doubtful that the feelings will go away of their own accord.

A previous client, Jo, had been suffering with extreme grief for 10 years before she came to me and she had actually been attending traditional talk therapy sessions for most of that time without any success. In fact, Jo was so upset about the loss of her mum that she was completely unable to speak about the subject of her mother’s death during the first half of our session. This surprised me as I had thought that after 10 years of traditional counselling it would have helped her in some way, but despite the lack of words from Jo, EFT still worked really well for her and after just one session, she was able to make fantastic progress and neutralise the negative feelings. By the end of the session she was able to think of and speak of her mother, without being upset. She was able to feel positive feelings about her mother’s life.

One of the best benefits of using a technique like EFT is that once the negative emotions have gone, they don’t come back. If you would like to give EFT a try, there are many free resources on the Internet, including You Tube videos that demonstrate the method. If you would like to try an EFT 1-2-1 session with me, please get in touch.

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I would really love to hear your comments, thoughts or stories on this subject. Was time able to heal your hurt? Feel free to leave a comment below, but please use your real name and NO SPAM.